This is a modified title of an article by Christine Hassler. When I saw the title of her article, I thought that here is a topic in the area of relationships that with a small change in the focus of the title of the article it becomes something of paramount importance in relationships.

It is very easy to be too objective, logical and strategic in looking at your relationship with that special someone. When we simply look at the facts we can get a distorted view of our relationships and life in general.

We look at that potential significant other who may be our current special someone and see that person as someone who behaves a certain way based on what we think is objective and therefore true. Our next step could be making a life decision such as marriage or having children based on our own personal logical, objective view of that person. It may seem strategic and good but is it authentic?

We move ahead without checking with our intuition to see if our gut is saying yes your decision or strategy is correct. Remember, your gut is most often what you should be checking with, not just your brain advising you as that all powerful logistics expert, the entity that can enable you to make a strategic decision that works out best for you and that special person of yours.

Often when we do not check out our logical perceptions with our gut, we end up making a decision that is not right for you or that special someone. One of you or both often gets hurt and sadness ensues. We have not been authentic in our relationship and we wonder why the relationship is faltering and ultimately hurting where there was only love before.

When you are making decisions about your relationship with that special person, be authentic, not just logical, strategic and objective. Your relationship will move along a lot smoother and successfully when you check with your intuition about what you think is a logical and the strategic course of action.

Your gut will always keep you authentic in your thoughts, observations, decisions and actions. Think about what your experience has been and share it with me, your intuition and that special someone.